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Monday, 6 April 2015

So here’s why I don’t drink…

Before you start reading I’ll just take a moment to remind you that the writer is someone that dares to be different. Right, so now we’ve got that clear, I’ll tell you why I choose to do what almost no other nineteen year old in the United Kingdom would choose for themselves – I live a teetotal life. That means I don’t consume a drop of alcohol. I don’t drink.

If you didn’t already know, Britain is one of the countries worst affected by binge-drinking. ‘Getting drunk’ is a pastime like playing football. I’m not exaggerating: I’m a university student and I can tell you I see alcohol in its worst light on a weekly basis. ‘Pre-drinking’ is a thing: that’s when people drink copious amounts of alcohol in the corridors (and make a big mess and a lot of noise in the process) BEFORE heading to the clubs where they drink more still behind the bar.

Some 40,000 people die each year in the UK alone due to alcohol-related problems. A&E services are clogged up with intoxicated men and women (and boys and girls – under-age drinking is rife over here) each week, talk less of the domestic abuse and street brawls that ensue – which can lead to murder – as a result of drink.

1. Health

Health concerns seem the most obvious reason to stay away from the bottle. We all know that alcohol poses a plethora of serious threats to health. The list of complications that can be born from alcohol consumption is way longer than my arm: there’s brain damage; liver disease; multiple cancers; increased infection; high blood pressure; pancreatitis; stomach problems; seizures; cardiovascular disease; reduced fertility; depression; anxiety… And there is of course the danger of foetal alcohol syndrome for the unborn child. So it seems obvious why I would choose not to drink alcohol really – I value my life!

Remember that saying: ‘Your body is a temple’? That derives from the Bible, which says, ‘Your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own […] therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s.’ I reckon the Holy Spirit deserves a much cleaner temple than one blotched with liquor. 

2. Loss of Self-Control

As obvious as it is that alcohol can be lethal health-wise, of recent that has actually not been the main driving force behind sticking to decision to be teetotal. Rather, it’s been seeing my friends drink and watching the unimaginable change that comes over them as they bezzle the booze. They go from articulate, intelligent people to kids with slurred speech. Inhibitions are lowered. I’ve found myself in some rather awkward situations where guy friends have forgotten about that social rule which treasures personal space and have actually made me feel quite uncomfortable. When a guy has had a bit to drink he’s much more likely to start touching you up. Decreased cognitive functioning caused by drinking means people don’t make decisions with the same clarity as they would were they sober. Sexual assault and rape are common after-effects of inebriation. So are domestic abuse and homicide.

Some effects of alcohol are more sobering than others. Some people just behave stupidly. Like, they start dancing like maniacs or they chatter absolute rubbish.  Sometimes their behaviour is a bit more deviant than that… Examples: running in front of a car; stripping completely naked in a public place; shouting nonsensical things at 100 decibels… I’ve had a couple of unpleasant experiences at uni where drunk people returning from a late night out clubbing have tried to get into my room. The first time it was two guys who decided that they wanted to bring people cookers from the nearby kitchens as a very strange 3am present. The second time the dude that lived a floor above me was so drunk he couldn’t tell the difference between his room and mine. That was at four o’clock.

I may be a pretty weird person on a day-to-day basis but I like to be in control of my weirdness. I like to know what I’m doing and be in charge of my thoughts and actions. And so I steer clear of drinking.
Some people tell me that they know their limits and will only get a bit tipsy and then they know to stop. But really I haven’t seen any evidence of this in real life. Most of the time my friends have absolutely no recollection of their behaviour the night before they got drunk – other than that they woke up fully clothed on their bedroom floor (or on someone else’s floor) with a splitting hangover. They don’t remember the things they said or the way they talked or how they walked. But apparently they had a good night.

What’s my point? My point is, how can you know when you need to stop when drinking completely clouds your judgement and your memory? Can you really remember once you’ve had a few that you’ve already downed four alcoholic drinks? Do you even care by that stage?

As someone that’s consistently sober at social gatherings I notice the changes in the behaviour of those that I know well – and I dare say they don’t. 

3. I don’t need to drink to have fun.

A lot of the people I speak to about my decision not to drink stress that drinking is just a social activity. Here in the UK it’s standard to go off to the pub to have a drink with your friends. Drinking makes you more confident and that bit merrier, they tell me. Do you know what I think of that? Genuinely I think it’s sad. Why should a person feel inadequate and unable to have a good time with their friends without first having had a glass of wine – or something stronger?

I think this excuse is all down to social pressure. Few people want to be the only sober person at a party. And I can understand why; I think I’ve already explained in enough detail how distressing it is for me watching my drunk friends become different people right before my eyes. But honestly I can tell you, when I have no need to worry about one of my friends, I have a great time even without gulping down the strong stuff. I love spending time with my friends because they’re lovely, interesting and funny. We can joke together, recount stories and have a good laugh: and not one of those activities has to be coupled with drinking.

Recently at my college in Oxford I proposed that we should have non-alcoholic “posh” drinks at our formal dinners as well as the red and white wine that is served – typically the only other option available has been water. I appreciate that having a glass of champagne can make an evening seem more special – I just prefer my spruced-up version to be a good glass of Shloer or Valentino! Good old grape juice. I’m glad to say the motion was passed unanimously and hopefully formals will have those options on their menu cards soon!

4. My money can be better spent elsewhere.

I don't pretend to know the figures for how much alcohol can cost you in a week but I know it's a lot. Ironically, the same students that protest (within reason) about tuition fees being ridiculously high are prepared to while away their cash on the booze. I'm a student and we're always poor. I don't need to make myself any poorer.


Plus, the cost in terms of time lost as a result of drink is something else to bear. Reports show that almost 15 million working days are lost each year in the UK due to alcohol-linked problems. That's usually because the employee or student has a hangover and can't get out of bed.

5. It smells bad!

I’m being serious – that stuff stinks! Stand next to someone with alcohol breath and tell me you don’t agree. OK so technically this isn’t a reason I don’t drink – I’m already put off it – but just the smell seems enough of an explanation. I’ll tell you a true story which demonstrates the extent of my antipathy for that smell.

In the queue for supper at my college, where all meals containing alcohol are usually marked with ‘ALC’, one evening I served myself a sort of creamy sauce. I wrinkled up my noise suspiciously before serving it but as there had been no signal that it contained alcohol I poured it generously over my meal. But the whiff of that odour was so poignant that I still asked at the till just to make sure it didn’t contain any alcohol. The catering manager himself wasn’t sure and he went to ask the chef – after which I was informed the sauce (and the only other available sauce) both had alcohol in them. The catering manager kindly offered to serve me another dish without the sauce.

Now I know what you’re likely thinking at this moment – My gosh Ruth that was so OTT! You know you can’t get drunk on a bit of white-wine based sauce! I know – I’m not that naïve – but it is saying something that I could have noticed the smell of the alcohol (which people usually say is all burned off during the cooking process) in a sauce that has been left for some time to simmer on the hob. Frankly I just dislike the idea of drinking alcohol so much that even a few millilitres of it would be too much for me.

It’s certainly an anomalous stance to take but I take to the teetotal life! It’s better for my emotional and physical well-being and moreover, I believe God prefers it. (For those that have been mulling over the account in the Bible where Jesus turns water into wine, this is a very interesting read: http://www.johnhamelministries.org/wine_lie_Jesus.htm).

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